The message in this photo says it all. There are many times in life that we say things we probably shouldn't. We come to find later that a simple slip of the tongue in a moment of frustration or anger can change the course of a life. It's funny how we tend to learn things the hard way; yet the growth you experience from life is all worth while. Words are the most powerful thing that we as humans use and they can either build you up, or tear you down.
Those who know me, know that I do not share my life story with just anyone. It takes me probably more time that it should to trust people. Life experiences have played a role in who I trust and how soon I trust people. I believe that we are all human beings walking around this earth just trying to do the best we can with the life that we are given. We will and do make mistakes in this life. I certainly have had my fair share of mistakes already in life and I know that I will make more as the years go on. The thing is though my readers; is that just because someone makes a mistake, no matter how big or small, does not mean that person should have deal with the backlash for the rest of their lives. Sometimes people are just simply trying to overcome their past to get to where they want their future to be. When your friends, family or the people who are closest to you finds out something, if they do not approve, they begin to treat you differently, act differently around you, distance themselves from you, say things that they would never have dreamed of saying prior to the slip of the tongue.
If only those who judge others could step into the shoes of the person in which they are judging and see what that does to them; I bet there would be less judgement going around in this world.
It has been my experience that I have heard some hurtful things come from the people who are closest to me, not because of anything I did directly to them, but because information about my life got out and things that were said and/or repeated that shouldn't have been; as a result of that happening, your immediate circle of friends and even family now begins to say things or treat you in ways they didn't before.
I will be the first to admit that I have said or done things that I shouldn't have; however, I have also learned to look at the other side of the pendulum because I know what it's like to be judged and judged harshly. The essence of this post is to remind everyone to always be open-minded, to hear what is being said to you without digging for a response, to choose your words wisely for once they have been released, you can never take them back.
...I wonder what the world would be like with TRUE connections with others who NEVER judge someone else and accepts all people and things for who that person or thing is, it's uniqueness and its individuality?....
We always complain about politics, war and the desire for "world peace"--Yet how can we ever obtain such an adventurous concept if we cannot even accept those around us in our daily lives, love them, not judge them but understand them, get to know them and be a part of their lives? If we really want to make a difference in the world, we must start by placing a mirror in our face and seeing the things that we need to change before we can convince,expect or dream about something as grand as "world peace" when people in general (not all people mind you) are so judgmentally, close-minded, and have one way of looking at things--Their way.
Judge less, love more, accept differences; but above all, understand the people and world around you. SPEAK words of love, acceptance and encouragement and you might be surprised with the changes you see not only in the people around you but also within yourself.
Until next time...
~Melissa
